This post has been sponsored by MAM Baby. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
I’m sure I’m not the only mom who has ever stood at her baby’s crib and wondered, “Is she breathing?” Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is scary and as the leading cause of death among infants 1 month to one year old, it’s not something to take lightly. However, there are ways to reduce the risk. Today, I wanted to share with you my anxiety about SIDS and the steps I have taken to reduce that stress and ensure my twins are as safe as possible when they sleep.
Please note: this is my story. Motherhood isn’t easy and no mother is perfect, but whether you breastfeed or formula feed, co-sleep or put your baby in a crib, cloth diaper or use disposables, as long as you’re doing the best you can, then you’re an amazing mom and you’re doing a great job!
With the twins, I couldn’t afford any of those expensive cardiovascular monitoring socks—the ones that monitor your baby’s vital signs and alert you if there is an issue. However, those commercial monitors (those not used in hospitals or prescribed for use) do not reduce SIDS deaths and they are notorious for false alarms. I did NOT need false alarms times two! So, instead of some false security, I made sure to read up on safe sleep habits and follow the American Academy of Pediatrics’ (AAP) recommendations to reduce the risk of SIDS.
I’m a pretty big rule follower, so when it comes to safe sleep for the babies, I do things by the book. The twins are put to sleep on their backs, in their own cribs, on a firm mattress with only a flat sheet, while wearing only a onesie (to avoid overheating – we’re in Los Angeles), with nothing in the crib except for a pacifier.
After we brought the babies home from the hospital, my night nanny had to ask me if I had pacifiers for them. I had completely forgotten about the pacifiers. There are so many little things to think about when bringing home a baby, let alone two babies! I had purchased a few different pacifiers because I had read that babies can be picky, but the only ones that my newborn twins would take were the MAM Baby Perfect Pacifiers.
Did you know that pacifier use can reduce the risk of SIDS? Doctors can’t agree on why it does, but this study discusses the different possible reasons which include “lower arousal threshold”, meaning the baby is easier to wake if there is an issue, the possibility that a “pacifier enhances the infant’s ability to breath through the mouth if the nasal airway becomes obstructed”, or that sucking on a pacifier requires forward positioning of the tongue and “decreases the risk of obstructive apnea and asphyxiation”.
Doctors don’t know if pacifier use and a lower risk of SIDS is cause and effect or a correlation, but the study shows that pacifier use reduces the risk of SIDS which is still unexplained and unpredictable. So, after learning about all this while I was pregnant, I had decided that if my twins would take pacifiers, I would allow them.
I’m not worried about pacifier use messing up the twins’ teeth. Studies show that as long as you discontinue pacifier use before the age of three, it’s unlikely to affect their teeth.
I love the glow-in-the-dark aspect of the MAM Perfect Pacifiers which help me locate a fallen pacifier that is lurking somewhere in a dark crib or … on the floor! I mean, we’ve all been there—crawling around on the floor using the cell phone flashlight to find a pacifier so we can pop it back in and go back to bed. With the glow-in-the-dark feature, it’s easy to find!
I’m sorry I’m not sharing any photos of my babies using the pacifiers while they sleep, but even when they nap during the day, it is very, very dark in their room, and I’m not willing to risk my 30-45 minute break time to get a photo. Mama’s gotta eat and scroll through Instagram!
The MAM Baby Perfect Pacifier is available on Amazon which saves my life almost daily when all of a sudden decide I need something, but I’m willing to wait two days (thank you, Prime!) to get it because, in reality, having it shipped to my house will probably get it to me faster than me being able to shower, get ready, and go to a store.
Did you use a pacifier with your baby? How did you eventually wean them from it? Let me know in a comment because I’m going to need all the advice for weaning TWO babies in a few years!
Tuesday 16th of October 2018
I know a lot of people do use pacifiers for their babies. I had four sons and they wouldn’t take them. However, I believe if you don’t give them pacifiers. They don’t have the need to rely on them and learn to console themselves with parents help, of course. If they take a pacifier, when they wake up, they have to have it to go back to sleep. It’s just something they depend on all the time when they really don’t need it. That’s my take on it.
Sunday 14th of October 2018
My second child held onto her pacifier a bit longer than the others. I decided one night we just needed to be done. We went out and bought a variety of bells. Then we searched the house for stashed pacifiers. We replaced each pacifier with a bell and left them exactly where we found them. The next day when she found them, we told her the fairy came and took them to bring to the new baby's! Like the tooth fairy, she leaves a gift as payment. My daughter is now 15, and still loves her very large bell collection!
Friday 12th of October 2018
I had a pacifier until I was 3. I never needed braces and always got compliments on my smile/teeth. No idea what brand since I was born in 1953! But glad to hear people still give them to there babies. My son used one (nuk I think?) until he lost it at about 18 months. He has pretty teeth too.
Wednesday 10th of October 2018
Thank you so much for this post! So many people give me a hard time about my son and his pacifier. He's 20 months not even 2 yet and he's off the bottle but he loves his pacifier. It helps him soothe through new situations and when he's tired. Everyone should inform themselves about teeth misalignment its only an issue after about 3 years old. If your child doesn't depend on one well great and if they do then that's ok too! Let your child feel secure and happy.
Tuesday 9th of October 2018
I love reading about your twins. My daughter is about to turn 2 and she still has her pacifier. She uses it mainly at night and when her teeth are hurting. She didn't use it at daycare at all.